I figured if you didn't know the word it might be useful. (I also have "helping like cats", but for that one I require at least minor . . . I dunno, amused wry affection for the target; people who annoy me are just hlep.)

And yeah, totally, in terms of "would be nice" - I mean my rambling point (if I had one other than "augh PEOPLE WHY and my tendency to go back and go "okay like I know why sort of but it's still stupid!") with that is that it's amazing how "it's your fault you're sick and also you're Being Sick Wrong" stays totally stable while at the same time we totally flip on what specific performances it is. (When what would actually be useful and align to evidence is . . . like, care adjusted to what people need based on their emotional state and actual needs? But that would be hard, apparently.)

And also that since gods yes you are totally doing all of that and anyone with two braincells to rub together can see that, like, none of it even remotely applies to you!

If by amazing I mean "oh my god humans stop."