I'm going to Nth both Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD and KC Davis's How to Keep House While Drowning, and also suggest A Radical Guide for Women With ADHD by Sari Solden and Michele Frank; Solden has also written a couple of books on her own with good info (she was the first one to really blow my mind about the conflict that can arise between ADHD and cultural role expectations for women) but unfortunately the covers are really dated and off-putting IMO. Radical Guide is new-ish and has a much better, if still fairly bland for the topic, cover.