re: non-white/POC, I know what you mean. I sometimes try to use PoC if that's the term being used in the discussion in general, but I'm more likely to do it if I'm talking to someone who is non-white and I know definitely prefers that term, as a matter of courtesy. In general, though, I'll say non-white and include the disclaimer, because it makes *me* seriously uncomfortable to use language that is, to me, racist. (Or any -ist, really.) So I'll try to overcome that if I think not doing so will make someone *else* uncomfortable, but I'm aiming for a happy balance. (Apart from anything else, though, I don't want to make using "PoC" a habit.)