SOmeone, in those 2500 comments, said that sex should be 'opt-in, not opt-out' and I cannot tell you the number of men, including men I've been involved with, who think that because a woman doesn't say 'no', some form of consent is there. This, I think, is the biggest thing that needs changing, and it goes along with your supposing we teach men that it IS possibly, acceptable, and sexy to ASK. And make sure that the sex is opt-in, and not opt-out.