Not diagnostic, but IMHO Ross Greene's "The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children" is a fantastic book on dealing with kids who have this particular pattern of behaviour across a wide range of diagnoses (including "we don't know what the fuck this is, so we're calling it ODD").

It's one of the books I wish my parents had had when I was a kid, basically.