Yes, the person with anorexia is the victim. I didn't mean to imply otherwise. I was using "victim" in the sense of "not the perpetrator," and obviously speaking of cases where they in fact are not the perpetrator. I certainly didn't intend to frame the situation as something that "happened" to the mother rather than the child. I was talking about the mother as the book is by and about the mother - she's not claiming to be speaking for her child or the family as a whole, but explicitly states that she's speaking for herself.
I agree that a lot of writing on autism by caregivers is hugely problematic. I'm not saying that this book isn't - I'm saying I can't tell from the book itself whether or not it is. However, the daughter was an adult and not living at home at the time of writing. It's impossible to sure of her consent since she didn't write the book, and we just have her mother's word that she did consent. On the flip side we also can't assume her lack of agency or inability to refuse.
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Date: 2017-08-04 06:46 pm (UTC)I agree that a lot of writing on autism by caregivers is hugely problematic. I'm not saying that this book isn't - I'm saying I can't tell from the book itself whether or not it is. However, the daughter was an adult and not living at home at the time of writing. It's impossible to sure of her consent since she didn't write the book, and we just have her mother's word that she did consent. On the flip side we also can't assume her lack of agency or inability to refuse.