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I am not terribly observant, to be honest. But I do try to observe somewhat.
The fast is the part people tend to think of first. (I only do it sort of (I drink some black coffee in the morning, or else I am sidelined for the whole day with a splitting headache, which is not conducive to doing anything else)). The other part is that it's a day to grieve for people who have died and think of people who are in trouble. And it's the Day of Atonement.
Part of that is asking forgiveness from people you have wronged or hurt. The idea is to admit that you did damage to the person you hurt, take ownership of it, and accept that forgiveness may not be granted.
But ideas have changed about asking for forgiveness. It's very fraught. Unless you're a Jew talking to another Jew on Yom Kippur itself, it's more likely that even asking is going to come across as an unwanted imposition, and create a burdensome sense that you have to accept the apology and forgive. I also have a tendency to be a bull in a china shop and barge in where I'm not wanted, and I'm aware of and working on that. So I'm not going to do individual apologies unless you are literally a Jew I'm going to see on Yom Kippur, which is zero people reading this. (Though if you would like an individual apology, feel free to contact me!)
With that in mind, I apologize to everyone reading this who I have wronged or hurt or wasn't there for in the past year. For most of you reading, "not being there for" is the big one. I've been very bad at being in touch with people, online and off, in this past year. Sometimes that's as small as reading a post (or a fic) that I know someone would really appreciate a reply to and not commenting, or as big as letting a friendship drift away by failing to keep in touch. I'm going to spend tomorrow repenting of that, and I will try my best to do better next year.
If you observe, may your fast be easy.
The fast is the part people tend to think of first. (I only do it sort of (I drink some black coffee in the morning, or else I am sidelined for the whole day with a splitting headache, which is not conducive to doing anything else)). The other part is that it's a day to grieve for people who have died and think of people who are in trouble. And it's the Day of Atonement.
Part of that is asking forgiveness from people you have wronged or hurt. The idea is to admit that you did damage to the person you hurt, take ownership of it, and accept that forgiveness may not be granted.
But ideas have changed about asking for forgiveness. It's very fraught. Unless you're a Jew talking to another Jew on Yom Kippur itself, it's more likely that even asking is going to come across as an unwanted imposition, and create a burdensome sense that you have to accept the apology and forgive. I also have a tendency to be a bull in a china shop and barge in where I'm not wanted, and I'm aware of and working on that. So I'm not going to do individual apologies unless you are literally a Jew I'm going to see on Yom Kippur, which is zero people reading this. (Though if you would like an individual apology, feel free to contact me!)
With that in mind, I apologize to everyone reading this who I have wronged or hurt or wasn't there for in the past year. For most of you reading, "not being there for" is the big one. I've been very bad at being in touch with people, online and off, in this past year. Sometimes that's as small as reading a post (or a fic) that I know someone would really appreciate a reply to and not commenting, or as big as letting a friendship drift away by failing to keep in touch. I'm going to spend tomorrow repenting of that, and I will try my best to do better next year.
If you observe, may your fast be easy.