I have no problems with anybody's right to be angry. Or even bloody furious. But I do find that there is a point in any communication where it slips onto an emotional level, and I react on an emotional level, and when I feel attacked, ignored, belittled, etc etc, I don't react rationally but get defensive.
I don't think the onus is one one side only, although sometimes one side is acting vastly more honourably/sensibly than the other and it would take a saint to not react; and sometimes how something is meant and how it is received bears little relation to the text. It's not an easy minefield to traverse, although sometimes it *is.*
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Date: 2009-03-07 12:53 am (UTC)I don't think the onus is one one side only, although sometimes one side is acting vastly more honourably/sensibly than the other and it would take a saint to not react; and sometimes how something is meant and how it is received bears little relation to the text. It's not an easy minefield to traverse, although sometimes it *is.*