Hey, thank you for sharing. I've been thinking about your comment since you shared it.
I think it's important to empower girls to recognize what's happening to them and to feel able to say no. I think it's great that you're changing your life in so many positive ways. But I worry that saying that "women have a responsibility to make how they feel about what's happening really, really, really clear" puts too much onus on women, and too much blame on you for those "two minutes" of silence. Because you saw a big difference between this occurance and the previous loving, consensual sex you'd had, and it's not crazy or extreme to expect your boyfriend to have seen one, too.
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Re: Good points. Here's my 2 cents, if ya want 'em!
Date: 2009-06-08 01:50 pm (UTC)I think it's important to empower girls to recognize what's happening to them and to feel able to say no. I think it's great that you're changing your life in so many positive ways. But I worry that saying that "women have a responsibility to make how they feel about what's happening really, really, really clear" puts too much onus on women, and too much blame on you for those "two minutes" of silence. Because you saw a big difference between this occurance and the previous loving, consensual sex you'd had, and it's not crazy or extreme to expect your boyfriend to have seen one, too.